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The Kimochis Feelings for Schools

Build a positive school climate and culture…one feeling at a time! The Kimochis® Feelings are a powerful tool for principals, teachers, school counselors, speech language pathologists, therapists, school psychologists and all school staff members.

Feelings fuel behavior, and all behaviors are communication. This downloadable PDF gives educators the tools to use the Kimochis® Feelings to:
•  Build emotional vocabulary and social-emotional fluency
•  Guide individual children through emotional moments
•  Use a Restorative Practices model to guide two or more children through conflicts
•  Add fun, team-building activites to staff meetings
•  Give students fun, communication-oriented brain breaks 
•  Introduce social and emotional learning in a quick and easy way

Use thisFREE downloadable with the Kimochis Mixed Bag of Feelings or individual Mixed Feelings Packs. Learn more at

How to use Kimochis?

CONNECT with your kids by recognizing feelings and learning to anticipate situations that can trigger emotional - or Ki-motional- reactions.

COMMUNICATE using a calm tone of voice and relaxed body language to help your child know what to say and do when feelings arise. 

CREATE a comfortable environment for Ki-motional conversation and play. 

PRACTICE communicating feelings with your family and friends. Help children catch themselves during emotional moments by giving a secret “try that again” signal such as a knowing look, head nod, wink, or gentle “uh-oh” sound. 

Take A Kimochis Moment (TKM)

Our natural brain and body reactions can be one major challenge to using the Keys to Kimochis® Communication during emotional moments. “Our bodies all have a general alarm mechanism. This mechanism is used to mobilize your body so that it can effectively cope with emergency situations. According to Dr. John Gottman, it is called Diffuse Physiological Arousal (DPA for short). In situations that are perceived as “dangerous” or “threatening”, DPA turns off the part of your brain that are logical and rational and triggers your “fight” or “flight” mechanism. In this state, we only hear and see signals of danger, nothing else. It’s harder to problem-solve or think logically and we are more likely to attack or be verbally defensive. Empathy and creativity fly out the window, along with our positive communication skills. 

When you feel yourself beginning to lose control, Take a Kimochis Moment (TKM) to cool down and regain your composure. You and your kids will thank you for it. 

Kids & Parents Can Talk About Grown Up Feelings

Often when children sense that special grown-ups in their life are having upset feelings, they want to say and do something to make the situation happier. This is a natural and compassionate response to be encouraged AND it is equally helpful to reassure your child that you can handle your upset feelings and that it is not your child’s job to make things better. 

After playing games with your Bowl of Feelings, reassure your child that even mommies and daddies have upset feelings. Reassure your child that when they can see and feel that you are not feeling well, it is okay for them to simply ask you, “what are you feeling?” They can also tuck the feeling they think you may be feeling into their Kimochis character’s pouch and give it to you. You then can respond and thank your child for being so compassionate and share whether this really is the feeling you are having or if it’s another feeling. You don’t have to share the details. And you don’t want to share any information that would be overwhelming to your child. The point of this ritual is to give your child positive reinforcement for noticing other’s feelings and wanting to make things better. It also gives your child a WAY to make sure that you are going to be okay. 

Using Kimochis Characters & Books

Think with your family about how your Kimochis® Character can play a comforting role. Encourage your children to tuck feelings inside their character’s pouch to communicate how what they are feeling. If they want to share these feelings they can tell you or place their character outside their bedroom door to signal to tell you they are ready to talk. 

Read Your Kimochis® character book with your child. (Cloud’s Best Worst Day Ever, Bug Makes a Splash, Cat’s Not-So-Perfect Sand Castle) Some of these open ended conversations can help facilitate a conversation. 

- How does the story make you feel?

- Can you tell me about a time when you felt that way?

- What do you need when you feel that way?

- What is the best way for us to talk about your worries and feelings?

- What can mom or dad do to help you feel better?

- What will help you feel supported?